No one can really tell you what it is like to grieve. To truly understand the process, you must experience it yourself. However, metaphors can give us a glimpse of the grieving experience. They also give us some insights into the grief journey -- a universal journey that you and others may have gone through and will continue to go through.
Here are some interesting grief metaphors:
"Grief is like a labyrinth. A labyrinth is not a maze as there are no dead ends and no wrong turnings. There is only one way -- forward." (Artress, no date)
"Grief is a graceful, periodic, deliberate walk backwards while keeping a sure foot in living forward." (Moules, Simonson, Prins, Angus, and Bell, 2004)
Grief is like riding an emotional roller-coaster. You will surely go through the ups and downs when you are on the ride.
Grief is like climbing a mountain. At first, the slope is steep. The journey is hard. Then you reach a plain field where you can stop and rest before you continue the climb. At last you reach the mountain top! Just when you think the hiking is over, you see another peak. There is one more to conquer. So you choose to walk down to the mountain valley before you climb up to the next mountain. Though the valley is deep, it is necessary. And with past climbing experience and training, you are more equipped for this now
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Mourning can go on for years and years. It doesn't end after a year, that's a false fantasy. It usually ends when people realize that they can live again, that they can concentrate their energies on their lives as a whole, and not on their hurt, and guilt and pain.
Elisabeth Kübler-Ross
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Angel In The Sky
There is a star in Heaven and on it is a place , that's been reserved for you since birth a place meant for your name.
This star has watched you through the years but it could not stand alone , it rested high on angel wings awaiting your trip home. You slipped away, I held you close , your soul flowed through my heart , I felt your last breath through my tears
I felt your pain depart. Tonight I looked up to the sky and there for me to view was one lone star shining bright your name was shining too. You were my angel on this earth , you're my angel in the sky.
Wait for me, someday you'll see our names shine side by side.
Written by Terri Onorato
Copyrighted © by Terri Onorato
This star has watched you through the years but it could not stand alone , it rested high on angel wings awaiting your trip home. You slipped away, I held you close , your soul flowed through my heart , I felt your last breath through my tears
I felt your pain depart. Tonight I looked up to the sky and there for me to view was one lone star shining bright your name was shining too. You were my angel on this earth , you're my angel in the sky.
Wait for me, someday you'll see our names shine side by side.
Written by Terri Onorato
Copyrighted © by Terri Onorato
Poem about Grief
Say not in grief that she is no more but say in thankfulness that she was
A death is not the extinguishing of a light,but the putting out of the lamp because the dawn has come.
A death is not the extinguishing of a light,but the putting out of the lamp because the dawn has come.
Journey of Grief
The Journey of Grief following a loss, a crisis or a significant life change is a very personal and often a very private one. Each person experiences his or her own unique journey. In the Journey through Grief, the bereaved person must learn how to deal with the loss, crisis or significant change. This requires learning how to cope with what may be a vast array of intense, painful and at times conflicting emotions. The grieving person must learn how to weather the storms that come their way, without losing courage or hope, realizing that in time they will overcome them.
Grieving people must also recognize that they may never "get over" their grief.
Some losses never entirely fade e.g. loss of child, loss of spouse, diagnosis with a terminal illness.
Instead what happens over time is that they learn how to integrate the loss or change into their lives and keep living.
The grieving process usually ends when the person realizes that they will survive, decides not to let the loss control his/her life, and begins to focus their energy on living.
The season of mourning, like spring, summer, fall and winter, will also pass.
Grieving people must also recognize that they may never "get over" their grief.
Some losses never entirely fade e.g. loss of child, loss of spouse, diagnosis with a terminal illness.
Instead what happens over time is that they learn how to integrate the loss or change into their lives and keep living.
The grieving process usually ends when the person realizes that they will survive, decides not to let the loss control his/her life, and begins to focus their energy on living.
The season of mourning, like spring, summer, fall and winter, will also pass.
Mourning can go on for years and years. It doesn't end after a year, that's a false fantasy. It usually ends when people realize that they can live again, that they can concentrate their energies on their lives as a whole, and not on their hurt, and guilt and pain.
Elisabeth Kübler-Ross
About Me
The Dance
Looking back on the memory of the dance we shared , beneath the stars above.
For a moment all the world was right , how was I to know that you'd ever say goodbye?
And now I'm glad I didn't know the way it all would end, the way it all would go.
Our lives are better left to chance,I could have missed the pain , but I'd have had to miss the dance.
Holding you, I held everything , for a moment, wasn't I the king? If I'd only known how the king would fall who's to say , you know I might have changed it all.
And now I'm glad I didn't know the way it all would end, the way it all would go.Our lives are better left to chance , I could have missed the pain,but I'd have had to miss the dance.
(Garth Brooks)
For a moment all the world was right , how was I to know that you'd ever say goodbye?
And now I'm glad I didn't know the way it all would end, the way it all would go.
Our lives are better left to chance,I could have missed the pain , but I'd have had to miss the dance.
Holding you, I held everything , for a moment, wasn't I the king? If I'd only known how the king would fall who's to say , you know I might have changed it all.
And now I'm glad I didn't know the way it all would end, the way it all would go.Our lives are better left to chance , I could have missed the pain,but I'd have had to miss the dance.
(Garth Brooks)
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