Grieving responses
When you are grieving over the death of your loved one, your body, your mind, your feelings, your behaviour, and your spirituality may go through major changes. And very often these changes are normal responses to your loss. For example,
When your body
does not want to eat or wants to eat too much
does not want to sleep or wants to sleep too much
loses or gains significant weight over a short period of time
experiences physical symptoms such as hollowness in the stomach, breathlessness, weakness of muscles, nausea, headache, gastric and chest pain (if symptoms persist please consult your doctor)
When you think
that you are going crazy
of your loved one all the time
that you are all alone in this grieving journey
that your future is hopeless
that you cannot live without your loved one
When you feel
sad
depressed
angry
fearful
guilty
numb
When you behave in certain ways such as
crying
isolating yourself from people
wanting to be surrounded by people all the time
not wanting to talk to anyone
talking about your loved one all the time
holding on to your loved one’s belongings
giving away your loved one’s belongings
visiting the cemetery regularly
increasing your consumption of non-prescription drugs or alcohol (this may be a normal coping response for some people but it is certainly not helpful in grieving)
When you question
previously held beliefs regarding the existence or goodness of God or a higher power
your own existence
the purpose and meaning of your life
the existence of life after death, or heaven and hell
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Mourning can go on for years and years. It doesn't end after a year, that's a false fantasy. It usually ends when people realize that they can live again, that they can concentrate their energies on their lives as a whole, and not on their hurt, and guilt and pain.
Elisabeth Kübler-Ross
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Angel In The Sky
There is a star in Heaven and on it is a place , that's been reserved for you since birth a place meant for your name.
This star has watched you through the years but it could not stand alone , it rested high on angel wings awaiting your trip home. You slipped away, I held you close , your soul flowed through my heart , I felt your last breath through my tears
I felt your pain depart. Tonight I looked up to the sky and there for me to view was one lone star shining bright your name was shining too. You were my angel on this earth , you're my angel in the sky.
Wait for me, someday you'll see our names shine side by side.
Written by Terri Onorato
Copyrighted © by Terri Onorato
This star has watched you through the years but it could not stand alone , it rested high on angel wings awaiting your trip home. You slipped away, I held you close , your soul flowed through my heart , I felt your last breath through my tears
I felt your pain depart. Tonight I looked up to the sky and there for me to view was one lone star shining bright your name was shining too. You were my angel on this earth , you're my angel in the sky.
Wait for me, someday you'll see our names shine side by side.
Written by Terri Onorato
Copyrighted © by Terri Onorato
Poem about Grief
Say not in grief that she is no more but say in thankfulness that she was
A death is not the extinguishing of a light,but the putting out of the lamp because the dawn has come.
A death is not the extinguishing of a light,but the putting out of the lamp because the dawn has come.
Journey of Grief
The Journey of Grief following a loss, a crisis or a significant life change is a very personal and often a very private one. Each person experiences his or her own unique journey. In the Journey through Grief, the bereaved person must learn how to deal with the loss, crisis or significant change. This requires learning how to cope with what may be a vast array of intense, painful and at times conflicting emotions. The grieving person must learn how to weather the storms that come their way, without losing courage or hope, realizing that in time they will overcome them.
Grieving people must also recognize that they may never "get over" their grief.
Some losses never entirely fade e.g. loss of child, loss of spouse, diagnosis with a terminal illness.
Instead what happens over time is that they learn how to integrate the loss or change into their lives and keep living.
The grieving process usually ends when the person realizes that they will survive, decides not to let the loss control his/her life, and begins to focus their energy on living.
The season of mourning, like spring, summer, fall and winter, will also pass.
Grieving people must also recognize that they may never "get over" their grief.
Some losses never entirely fade e.g. loss of child, loss of spouse, diagnosis with a terminal illness.
Instead what happens over time is that they learn how to integrate the loss or change into their lives and keep living.
The grieving process usually ends when the person realizes that they will survive, decides not to let the loss control his/her life, and begins to focus their energy on living.
The season of mourning, like spring, summer, fall and winter, will also pass.
Mourning can go on for years and years. It doesn't end after a year, that's a false fantasy. It usually ends when people realize that they can live again, that they can concentrate their energies on their lives as a whole, and not on their hurt, and guilt and pain.
Elisabeth Kübler-Ross
About Me
The Dance
Looking back on the memory of the dance we shared , beneath the stars above.
For a moment all the world was right , how was I to know that you'd ever say goodbye?
And now I'm glad I didn't know the way it all would end, the way it all would go.
Our lives are better left to chance,I could have missed the pain , but I'd have had to miss the dance.
Holding you, I held everything , for a moment, wasn't I the king? If I'd only known how the king would fall who's to say , you know I might have changed it all.
And now I'm glad I didn't know the way it all would end, the way it all would go.Our lives are better left to chance , I could have missed the pain,but I'd have had to miss the dance.
(Garth Brooks)
For a moment all the world was right , how was I to know that you'd ever say goodbye?
And now I'm glad I didn't know the way it all would end, the way it all would go.
Our lives are better left to chance,I could have missed the pain , but I'd have had to miss the dance.
Holding you, I held everything , for a moment, wasn't I the king? If I'd only known how the king would fall who's to say , you know I might have changed it all.
And now I'm glad I didn't know the way it all would end, the way it all would go.Our lives are better left to chance , I could have missed the pain,but I'd have had to miss the dance.
(Garth Brooks)
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The fact that the poems, photos and stories are distributed via the Internet does not release them from their creator's copyright privilege